Why You Need to Say "Yes" to Saying "No"
Sometimes it’s hard to let go of what you’ve been holding on to for so long. Ok, not sometimes, maybe all the times. But when you let go of what’s no longer aligned, beautiful new things get to come in. Quite often we are scared to death of releasing part of “who we are” (for me it was being a tap dancer, teacher, and choreographer for 25 years) because that means we don’t know who we are anymore! We’re this unknown nothing that has no clue about anything just flailing around like a fish out of water.
But here’s the thing: it’s totally OK to be that way. Letting go of something good in order to get something better than you could ever imagine is well worth it in my book. And here’s why: when you are aligned, your life opens to ease and flow, with miracles, magick, and love abound.
Does that mean it’s all rainbows and unicorns all the time? Hell to the NO! It just means that when you are faced with obstacles, you will be more apt to find creative solutions quickly and without creating a massive drama over what is just a small setback, and you will be able to regulate your emotions more effectively.
Knowing and honoring what feels good and aligns with you is a key component in having control over your life. You have the awareness that other possibilities exist and can make a different choice. When we make choices from a higher perspective, it helps us become even more congruent with our path and anchors in more healing energy.
When you are willing to say no to things that don’t feel good, that you don’t have interest in doing, or that you know will drain you, other people may become upset. Please remember, their reaction is their responsibility. When you honor you, other people might not understand that and try to make you feel bad about it. No one can make you feel a certain way unless you let them. And no one can control another, so thinking that anyone can make anyone else feel something is a waste of precious energy.
When you say no, you are honoring yourself. At first it’s probably going to feel uncomfortable because you’re used to saying yes, and people expect you to. That first “no” will be the hardest, but also the most rewarding.
How does it feel when you honor yourself and your needs? It’s perfectly fine to want to attend to the needs of others, and we should do so at our own discretion, as it may cause us to lose ourselves in the process. Is that expense worth the price in the long run? How does it feel when you don’t honor your wants and needs?
If you’re someone who says yes to everyone but themselves, I invite you to make a list of things you enjoy and light you up. Over the course of the week, choose at least one of those things to do, and commit to doing it/them. Choose yourself and take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you”.
Know that it’s absolutely safe, right, and good to choose you. It’s not your job or your responsibility to take care of other people’s wants and needs before your own, you can’t pour from an empty cup. You are worth being loved by you.